Okay, “last” is probably a bit optimistic, cuz pix are still trickling in. But since we pretty much inundated social media with images all day yesterday I just wanted to assure those friends who are probably already tired of it that the deluge is just about over! However, there are folks who only follow us here on Travalanche, and this seemed the best place to lay out the whole story.
My new wife (and long time significant other) is the illustrator Carolyn Stewart (nee Raship).
I slipped a little bit about our first date (in early 2010) into this post on Henry VIII a few months ago. Henry VIII — now THERE was a guy who got married.
Back in August Carolyn and I tied the knot in a civil ceremony at City Hall, with two close friends Hope Cartelli and Jeff Lewonczyk along as witnesses. You can read more about Hope and Jeff in this profile on our friend Nina Mansfield’s swell web site Not Even Joking. Most of these photos are by Hope and Jeff:
Look! We drew the clerk at Window 13! How Addams Family!
The “ring” (we drew them on with Sharpies)
First kiss as ‘usband and wife
Post-wedding brunch with Lewonczyk and Cartelli
So that was phase one — the legal marriage under our belt. We’d been together six years and it seemed about time.
Phase two was the public wedding ceremony. We wanted to share this bond with our friends and family and celebrate with them as well, so on October 15 we held a succession of events on New York’s Lower East Side, a combined wedding ceremony and vaudeville show at the magical Slipper Room, and then a continuation of the celebration at Paulaner Brauhaus, on the Bowery. The event mixed thematic elements of Halloween, surrealism, fairy tale, and Oktoberfest…just because we like all that stuff and it’s mid-October. Apologies in advance for not identifying some of the photographers — all were taken by friends at the event (I amassed them all in a file and lost track of who took what).
Our wedding officiant was the intoxicating comedic performance artist Kelly “Killy” Dwyer. L-R, we have my female “best man” Hope Cartelli, me, Killy, my bride, and Maid of Honor Nora Lockshin
After this, we took vows. Carolyn said “yes” to vows I wrote for her (perhaps the first wedding vows in history to contain the word “cockroaches”).
Carolyn went with an even broader definition of the concept of “vows”, painting them on cardboard signs for me to “agree” to:
Here they are in close up:
Bride whispers to me her secret vow
The deal is sealed with the ceremonial drink of wine
We are declared man and wife by a Mock$star
Then Killy sang her new up-to-the-minute song “Vagenda of Manocide”.
I don’t have video of her at the show, but here’s the official Youtube video:
Then I launched the vaudeville show. Photo by the unfailing eye of Downtown Duse Moira Stone
Director/ choreographer Patrice Miller and Jeremy Barker perform “Two Bound, or How I Learned to Love the Coat Rack: A Surreal Vaudeville Dance” to the tune of the Velvet Underground’s “She’s My Best Friend”
At this point in the proceedings I believe I gave an expurgated rendition of Edward Lear’s “The Owl and the Pussycat”
Lewoncyck and Cartelli sing Gershwin’s “Blah, Blah, Blah” song (1931)
Gay Marshall, premier Edith Piaf interpreter, sings “La Vie En Rose.” There wasn’t a dry eye in the house.
I wrapped it up with a fractured version of the old folk classic “Froggy Went a-Courtin'”
Bride thanks everyone. Groom reaches for his pistol (the bride must have mentioned the word “art”)
Here’s the wedding and show in a short video prepared by our intrepid friend Nicole DeSmet:
Cake gets distributed. The man taking a seat in the lower right is the great Hovey Burgess, one of American’s top circus historians, who camps out at that table at the Slipper Room almost every night
A better shot of Hovey
The Brick’s Robert Honeywell and Moira Stone (see above)
Family of bride and groom: L-R: Son Charlie Stewart and Manush and Michael Raship. Writer Nina (Mansfield) Haberli in the row behind
Son Cashel Stewart with friend Hali Chesher
Paige Blansfield and Richard Lovejoy (of the 2014 film The Widowers)
From here the scene shifts to the beer hall:
Groom ceremonially taps mini-keg
New media artist and electronic musician Todd Polenberg and author Sarah Porter (see above)
Larry Desgaines w/ the ubiquitous Carlo
Bride and Maid of Honor
Me and my kiddos Cashel and Charlie
Happy bride and groom
Lastly we went to the roof of our Lower East Side honeymoon hotel with some friends and looked at the rare Hunters supermoon and the beautiful NYC skyline. The perfect end to a perfect evening. There won’t be a similar moon in the sky until 2034!